Hidh shampanj\u00ebn \u2013 u martove! Por tani mund ta gjeni veten duke u p\u00ebrballur me shum\u00eb tipare t\u00eb tmerrshme t\u00eb nj\u00eb vjehrre xheloze.<\/p>\n
Pasi nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb dhuron f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb \u00e7muar, ata mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen xheloze p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb merrnin nga djali i tyre tani duke ju dh\u00ebn\u00eb juve dhe tani ata b\u00ebhen t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar ndaj jush.<\/p>\n
Megjithat\u00eb, nuk jeni faji juaj q\u00eb ju zgjodhi djali i saj \u2013 ai \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij ku \u00ebsht\u00eb gati t\u2019i jap\u00eb dikujt tjet\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb e tij t\u00eb pakusht\u00ebzuar.<\/p>\n
Ka shum\u00eb arsye t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb nj\u00eb vjeh\u00ebr mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb xheloze p\u00ebr nusen e saj t\u00eb re q\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb ndjenja braktisjeje dhe humbjeje, ndjenja e saj sikur djali i saj pushoi s\u00eb foluri me t\u00eb kur t\u00eb takoi dhe s\u00eb fundi, ajo madje mund t\u00eb ndjehet i frik\u00ebsuar nga ju.<\/p>\n
Si e kuptoni n\u00ebse vjehrra juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb xheloze p\u00ebr ju? Kontrolloni duke u njohur me k\u00ebto shenja xheloze t\u00eb vjehrr\u00ebs s\u00eb m\u00ebposhtme.<\/p>\n
12 Shenjat q\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se vjehrra juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb xheloze:<\/p>\n
1. Ajo nuk respekton kufijt\u00eb tuaj.
\nNj\u00eb vjeh\u00ebr xheloze nuk do t\u2019i respektoj\u00eb kurr\u00eb kufijt\u00eb tuaj dhe ju do ta gjeni veten vazhdimisht t\u00eb frustruar nga kjo. Ajo ende mendon se i vendos rregullat dhe nuk i intereson mendimi, d\u00ebshirat apo nevojat tuaja.<\/p>\n
Ajo e tregon k\u00ebt\u00eb duke folur p\u00ebr ju, duke mos ju d\u00ebgjuar, duke diskutuar plane familjare pa ju, duke u shfaqur plot\u00ebsisht pa paralajm\u00ebrim dhe duke ju pushtuar shpeshher\u00eb privat\u00ebsin\u00eb.<\/p>\n
2. Ajo p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb marr\u00eb koh\u00eb nga ju dhe burri juaj.
\nAjo gjithmon\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroj\u00eb t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb \u00e7do sekond\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7do dite duke folur dhe duke kaluar koh\u00eb me burrin tuaj. Ju mund t\u00eb ndiheni sikur ajo po p\u00ebrpiqet t\u2019ju largoj\u00eb dhe se ajo nuk e respekton koh\u00ebn ose marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien tuaj me djalin e saj.<\/p>\n
Sigurisht, ajo do t\u00eb luaj\u00eb rolin e viktim\u00ebs duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se thjesht d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb koh\u00eb cil\u00ebsore me t\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, ka nj\u00eb vij\u00eb k\u00ebtu, dhe tani, t\u00eb dy e dini se ajo e ka kaluar at\u00eb.<\/p>\n
3. Ajo flet me burrin tuaj pas shpine.
\nNuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se partneri juaj duhet t\u2019ju tregoj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb flet me n\u00ebn\u00ebn e tij. Megjithat\u00eb, ai duhet t\u2019ju tregoj\u00eb n\u00ebse ajo po flet p\u00ebr ju pas shpine, pasi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb me ju. Nuk mund t\u00eb kesh fjal\u00ebn n\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb ku nuk je i p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb \u2013 plus, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb qart\u00eb m\u00ebnyra e saj p\u00ebr t\u2019ju v\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00ebllimisht n\u00eb drit\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb keqe t\u00eb mundshme p\u00ebrball\u00eb burrit tuaj.<\/p>\n
Ekziston nj\u00eb nivel tjet\u00ebr besimi midis jush dhe partnerit tuaj kundrejt besimit midis tyre dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre. Zakonisht, lidhja mes jush dhe partnerit tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e fort\u00eb, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb normale t\u00eb ankoheni p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Kjo potencialisht mund t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebr\u00e7arje midis jush dhe vjehrr\u00ebs suaj q\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb situat\u00eb shum\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar dhe e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
4. Ajo ju flet p\u00ebrmes djalit t\u00eb saj.
\nKjo quhet trek\u00ebnd\u00ebshimi i dikujt. Ajo ju flet p\u00ebrmes djalit t\u00eb saj sepse nuk ju respekton aq sa t\u00eb flas\u00eb ball\u00eb p\u00ebr ball\u00eb me ju.<\/p>\n
Kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb irrituese, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb ju b\u00ebn t\u00eb b\u00ebni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb si p\u00ebrgjigje, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb natyr\u00ebs s\u00eb vog\u00ebl t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj sjelljeje q\u00eb rezulton nga trek\u00ebnd\u00ebshimi. Ajo mund t\u2019ju ndaj\u00eb m\u00eb tej ju dhe djalin e saj duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, pasi kjo ju v\u00eb stres t\u00eb treve.<\/p>\n
5. Ajo fut nj\u00eb pyk\u00eb mes jush dhe djalit t\u00eb saj.
\nDisa vjehrra mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb shum\u00eb toksike. Ata fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr fjal\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb munden p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrz\u00ebn\u00eb sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb distanc\u00eb mes jush dhe djalit t\u00eb saj, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ju t\u00eb dy t\u00eb arrini n\u00eb nj\u00eb ng\u00ebr\u00e7 dhe thjesht t\u00eb d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb hiqni dor\u00eb.<\/p>\n
6. Ajo ju v\u00eb kund\u00ebr burrit tuaj.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse ajo nuk ju p\u00eblqen ose \u00ebsht\u00eb xheloze p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn q\u00eb po kaloni me djalin e saj, nj\u00eb vjeh\u00ebr toksike do t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb \u00e7do truk manipulues n\u00eb m\u00ebng\u00ebn e saj p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb ju dhe djalin e saj kund\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrit.<\/p>\n
Ajo gjithashtu mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb ndez\u00eb debate mes jush dhe kjo mund t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb ndarje midis jush, si dhe juve dhe vjehrr\u00ebs suaj.<\/p>\n
7. Ajo saboton planet tuaja.
\nAjo mund t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb n\u00eb planet tuaja, ose t\u2019i nd\u00ebrpres\u00eb ato me q\u00ebllim, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb testoj\u00eb besnik\u00ebrin\u00eb tuaj ndaj saj, duke punuar gjithashtu p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar tension. Kjo mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet e paq\u00ebndrueshme n\u00ebse ndodh shpesh sepse mund t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb distancoheni m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga ajo dhe nga burri juaj.<\/p>\n
8. Ajo ju injoron.
\nVjehrra juaj mund t\u2019ju injoroj\u00eb n\u00eb mbledhjet familjare, festa dhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk ju miraton dhe d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb mosmiratimi i saj t\u00eb p\u00ebrkthehet n\u00eb shkaktimin e problemeve martesore mes jush dhe burrit tuaj.<\/p>\n
Ajo do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet \u00e7do gj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju p\u00ebrjashtuar dhe kurr\u00eb nuk do t\u2019ju jap\u00eb koh\u00ebn e dit\u00ebs, pasi gjithmon\u00eb do t\u2019ju injoroj\u00eb dhe nuk do t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihet n\u00eb biseda.<\/p>\n
9. Ajo krijon nj\u00eb mjedis stresues.
\nAjo do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet ta b\u00ebj\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj nj\u00eb ferr n\u00ebse nuk ju p\u00eblqen dhe do t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb stresuar aq shum\u00eb sa t\u00eb doni vet\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebrtisni dhe t\u00eb grisni gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb dor\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ajo do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb pamundur\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u2019ju mbaj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb gjendje stresi t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm duke ju mposhtur me pranin\u00eb e saj, ndryshimet n\u00eb plane, shqet\u00ebsimet e saj t\u00eb shpeshta dhe nd\u00ebrhyrjet e saj n\u00eb martes\u00ebn tuaj.<\/p>\n
10. Ajo flet keq p\u00ebr ju njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb n\u00eb familjen tuaj.
\nKushdo tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb familjen e partnerit tuaj, pavar\u00ebsisht n\u00ebse ai ka v\u00ebllez\u00ebr e motra, kush\u00ebrinj, halla ose st\u00ebrst\u00ebrgjyshe Trudie, e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse e shurdh\u00ebr n\u00eb t\u00eb dy vesh\u00ebt, vjehrra juaj do t\u00eb sigurohet q\u00eb t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr plehrat pas shpine dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t\u00eb bind\u00eb e gjith\u00eb familja t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb me besnik\u00ebri pas saj n\u00eb an\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb \u00e7do historie.<\/p>\n
Ajo po b\u00ebn nj\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje t\u00eb llogaritur p\u00ebr t\u2019ju t\u00ebrhequr zvarr\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr balt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u siguruar q\u00eb burri juaj do t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb pran\u00eb saj \u2013 jo juaji.<\/p>\n
11. Ajo nxit kaos k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb ju nuk mund t\u00eb duket se b\u00ebni asgj\u00eb si\u00e7 duhet.
\nJu ndiheni sikur nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebni asgj\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, sepse vjehrra juaj gjithmon\u00eb ju thot\u00eb se keni b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb gabuar ose se \u00e7far\u00ebdo q\u00eb keni b\u00ebr\u00eb nuk ishte mjaft e mir\u00eb. Ose ajo ju pengon kudo q\u00eb shkoni me m\u00ebnyrat e saj t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjes.<\/p>\n
Asgj\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebni nuk merr kurr\u00eb vul\u00ebn e saj t\u00eb miratimit dhe ajo dyfishohet duke prishur p\u00ebrpjekjet tuaja p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka. Kuptohet, po ju \u00e7mend. (Vet\u00ebm ajo q\u00eb ajo donte!)<\/p>\n
12. Ajo ju kritikon vazhdimisht.
\nAjo gjithmon\u00eb kritikon pun\u00ebn tuaj ose p\u00ebrpjekjet tuaja p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb pjes\u00eb e familjes s\u00eb saj. Ajo do t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb komente t\u00eb vrazhda, kritike dhe pasive-agresive ndaj burrit tuaj ose an\u00ebtar\u00ebve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb t\u00eb familjes dhe do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb rraskapit\u00ebse durimin e q\u00ebndrimit t\u00eb saj negativ t\u00eb vet\u00ebm dhe ndjenjave xhelozie e t\u00eb neveritshme ndaj jush.<\/p>\n
Si t\u00eb trajtoni nj\u00eb vjeh\u00ebr xheloze
\nP\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrballuar k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb toksike me vjehrr\u00ebn tuaj, ka disa gj\u00ebra q\u00eb mund t\u00eb provoni dhe b\u00ebni p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndrequr gj\u00ebrat mes jush dhe asaj dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni ta manipuloni at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ju p\u00eblqej\u00eb, dhe ndoshta edhe t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb m\u00eb aq xheloze.<\/p>\n
Gj\u00ebja e par\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebni, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb kuptoni se nga vjen ajo dhe shkakun e ndjenjave t\u00eb saj. Merrni parasysh sjelljen e saj dhe identifikoni cilat jan\u00eb shkaktar\u00ebt dhe pasigurit\u00eb e saj. Kjo duhet t\u2019ju jap\u00eb nj\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb dhe qart\u00ebsi rreth asaj se pse ajo po tregohet kaq keqdash\u00ebse ndaj jush dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb xheloze p\u00ebr ju \u2013 dhe mund t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoni se si ta njoftoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb se d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb kap\u00ebrceni hendekun midis jush.<\/p>\n
Ju d\u00ebshironi t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb fort\u00eb me t\u00eb, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb t\u2019ju doj\u00eb dhe t\u2019ju besoj\u00eb. P\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, duhet t\u2019i kushtoni asaj shum\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen q\u00eb ajo k\u00ebrkon, gj\u00eb q\u00eb, natyrisht, nuk do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e leht\u00eb n\u00ebse ajo po punon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb aktive p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie toksike midis jush dhe burrit tuaj.<\/p>\n
Sipas hipnoterapistit klinik dhe ekspertit t\u00eb familjes, Keya Murthy, m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u00eb trajtuar nj\u00eb vjeh\u00ebr xheloze \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jesh e hapur dhe e sinqert\u00eb. \u201cM\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u00eb fituar nj\u00eb armik nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrmes agresionit apo lajkave, por komunikimit. Flisni me t\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrfshijeni at\u00eb n\u00eb daljet e rast\u00ebsishme familjare.\u201d<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb plan tjet\u00ebr efektiv \u00ebsht\u00eb ta p\u00ebrfshini at\u00eb n\u00eb familjen tuaj dhe ta trajtoni ashtu si do t\u00eb b\u00ebnit me ndonj\u00eb nga an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e ngusht\u00eb t\u00eb familjes suaj, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb mos ndihet si e huaj rreth jush. L\u00ebrini t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se ju e pranoni marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e saj me djalin e saj dhe se nuk po p\u00ebrpiqeni aspak ta rrezikoni at\u00eb ose t\u2019ia hiqni at\u00eb.<\/p>\n
\u201cKur martohesh me nj\u00eb person, martohesh n\u00eb familje. Vjehrra xheloze \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb grua e pasigurt. B\u00ebj \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb mundesh p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb ndihet e sigurt duke ruajtur kufijt\u00eb e tu. B\u00ebhuni miq, b\u00ebni m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn dhe harroni pjes\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr. \u201cKur shqet\u00ebsohesh shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb, i jep m\u00eb shum\u00eb pushtet\u201d, thot\u00eb Murthy.<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse i provoni t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra duke komunikuar hapur me burrin tuaj, duke shmangur konfliktin dhe duke ardhur nga nj\u00eb vend i dhembshuris\u00eb dhe q\u00ebllimeve t\u00eb mira, kjo duhet ta ndihmoj\u00eb vjehrr\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb rehat me ju, t\u00eb mos ndjehet m\u00eb e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar dhe t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00eb si dik\u00eb q\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshiron m\u00eb ta internoj\u00eb, por ta p\u00ebrfshij\u00eb n\u00eb familjen e saj.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hidh shampanj\u00ebn \u2013 u martove! Por tani mund ta gjeni veten duke u p\u00ebrballur me shum\u00eb tipare t\u00eb tmerrshme t\u00eb nj\u00eb vjehrre xheloze. Pasi nj\u00eb<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[54],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3135","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-indeks"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3135","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/14"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3135"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3135\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3135"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3135"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/indeks.bilten.mk\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3135"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}